Anna Faris is a work in progress.
The actor, 45, recently opened up in an interview with Chelsea Handler on Handler’s podcast, Dear Chelseaabout her life after the divorce and how she is “still learning” how to accept love in her life.
“Because I’m a stepmother…I’m still learning. I really am,” she explained of co-parenting her new husband Michael Barrett’s two children, whom he has from a previous relationship. “I felt at first that I kind of wanted to be a new, reckless person in their life, because I was going through a divorce too.”
Faris married cinematographer Barrett in 2021, after meeting him in the film overboard†
She was previously married to Chris Pratt before divorcing in October 2018. She and Pratt share a son, Jack, 9. Before Pratt, she was married to actor Ben Indra until their divorce in 2008.
Reflecting on how her divorce from Indra changed her outlook on life, Faris acknowledged, “There is a kind of shift that takes place” after the divorce.
“It hit hard the first time,” she explained. ‘I turned into someone I didn’t recognize. Like, I was always the kind of person who stocked my fridge — and I hosted a lot of dinner parties. That was when I had friends. But then [post-divorce] I was in this apartment with only beer and mustard in the fridge, and I went out all the time. I had no one to text or call to say, “Hey, can I do this?” It was incredibly liberating and I returned to when I was 17 years old.”
Talking about the intimate relationship she now has with herself, Faris admits it’s a “slow growth” when it comes to accepting love from others — which she can trace back to her childhood.
“I was terrified that I wasn’t a good lover, especially when I was younger,” she said. “I was so self-conscious of my body. I didn’t want anyone to see it, but I danced on the edges of it. I desperately wanted to be desired.”
“My mother never complimented me on my physical appearance,” she explained. “I was such a late bloomer – I had chubby cheeks, I wore headgear for f****** years. I think my parents did that to me because they wanted me to remain a virgin,” and “that was definitely one of the struggles in my life.’
Faris’ eagerness to please people, combined with a desire to be desired by men, inspired her to make changes to her body to meet those needs.
“I just got fake breasts and bleached my hair. That was my strategy,” she said, adding that while it’s easy for her to accept compliments on her work and achievements, it’s still a struggle to accept praise for her looks. “When you’re doing something in Hollywood and everyone looks beautiful and someone says, ‘I think you look so beautiful,’ I can’t absorb it very well. It’s a bit too much.”
After her second divorce, however, Faris says it’s “been easier to accept love, but adds that I’m still struggling a bit with it.”
While Faris is still learning the ups and downs of being a stepparent, she’s also been open about the realities of co-parenting with Pratt. Earlier this year in her podcast unqualifiedshe spoke candidly about the difficulties.
Chris and I work very hard [to coparent] because we have Jack,” she said. “That’s kind of the idea of a long game and making Jack really happy, which makes us really happy. We have a kind of luxury of circumstances. You know, we both have different love affairs, but it’s like in general you don’t sink into a place of bitterness?”
While she admits that raising a child with her ex is challenging, in the end she wishes everyone the best.
“However, I want to reiterate that I fucking acknowledge, we all do, everyone acknowledges, that there is bitterness and pain in all breakups, and that hopefully makes us more humane,” she explained. “But the long game, and it’s just the worst being the bigger person. It just is. The f**king sucks! Until then, what [matters most] is that everyone is happy.”
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